I posted this link: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/healthnews/9113394/Killing-babies-no-different-from-abortion-experts-say.html on my other blog and how horrified I was by it. I received several comments that I responded to in the following manner:
Q: Why be pro-life? I mean, do you know what hyperemesis gravidarum, pre-eclampsia, and ectopic pregnancies are? Do you know how physically hellish pregnancy can be for a woman? Do you know all of the different ways that pregnancy can cause mental and emotional distress to a woman? Do you know how emotionally scarring it can be to give a child up for adoption? Or do you just not care about any of that, which proves that your views on this issue are incredibly hateful?
A: I’ve never been pregnant, but actually I know very well what a pre-eclampsia pregnancy is like, I have firsthand experience in fact. Let me introduce you to my mother, she’s given birth to nine children in nine pregnancies, three of which were pre-eclampsia, one of which was me: thus the first hand experience. So no, I’ve never been pregnant, or given birth but I have been very closely involved with my mother’s pregnancies and the births of my sibling, and I know how painful they can be. Yes, pregnancy is hellish, that I know from experience.
But you know what else I’ve been experienced? Waking up every morning the past 6 years to a pair of big blue eyes and curly blonde hair bouncing wildly as my little sister begs me to play with her. I’ve cried with joy when a couple who’s been married 10 years and were unable to have children brought home their adopted son from the hospital. I’ve had split-my-side laughing hilarious conversation with my twin cousins who were born with cerebral palsy and are some of the sweetest kindest people I know.
I can’t imagine what it would be like to give your child away, but at least your child would be ALIVE somewhere, you might feel guilty that you weren’t able to give them the life you wanted for them, but at least you gave them one. I’m pretty sure that guilt would be a lot easier to bear than the guilt of never giving them life at all.
I remember the feeling of emptiness I felt after my family lost a baby to miscarriage; it was like someone had punched me in the gut and then followed up with a series of jabs to my ribs until I couldn’t breathe. The thought of the life that never was still makes my heart ache. Why anyone would purposely bring that on themselves is beyond my realm of understanding.
The subject of abortion is a very emotional one for me because of the simple fact that I love children. As a children’s librarian at a public library I see children from all walks of life, from families that can and cannot afford them and low income and high and I can honestly say I love them all, there is nothing more beautiful to me than the potential in a young child and I firmly believe no matter what the circumstances any child has the opportunity to change the world, and will, because no life is a waste. When I read articles like the one posted earlier I feel sick, and I can do nothing but mourn, I sincerely mourn these children who were not thought as much a “person” as I am to be dignified with the right to a life. I do not hate the people who get abortions; but I do grieve the choice they made. I cry for their child even if they do not because that child deserves the dignity of someone to mourn for them and I am willing to take that burden on.
Q: That fetus could also grow up to be the next Hitler. Seriously, that rationale is so old and makes no sense. Also, no babies are involved in an abortion. Their fetuses. And if you insist on using that rhetoric, what if that woman who had been forced to undergo a pregnancy she didn't want instead of allowing her to obtain an abortion, could have made something out of her life during that time that made her the next Nobel Peace winner? That "what if" stuff is a juvenile way of arguing a point.
A: So you’re insinuating that a pregnant woman couldn’t win the Nobel Peace Prize? My 45 year old mother homeschooled 8 children, ran a business, and traveled across the United States and internationally multiple times while pregnant with my youngest sister. Let me tell you, the woman deserves some type of prize.
One thing the article proves that if we justify abortions of supposed “not babies” it’s the same as justifying the killing of a newborn. Do you consider a newborn a baby if a “fetus” isn’t one?
If so, this begs the question, when is a child no longer a newborn? At what age is this going to become illegal? When they start school? When they start a job and begin contributing to society? Before you go accusing me of slippery slope I beg you to consider where this could lead. If babies are not considered “people” what about mentally disabled people who’s intelligence level is barely above that of a baby? And if we’re including mental disabilities, what about other ones? Why not expand it to the deaf, dumb, blind and those who are unable to walk? What if they prove that people with blonde hair really are less intelligent? Does that classify them as “not people”? Why don’t we kill them off too?
Oddly enough that’s pretty much the exact thing the Nazi were doing, only at that point blondes were considered better because they coincidentally were all blonde. Not only did they kill millions of Jews they also gassed the elderly and disabled. In justifying the murders of unborn children by discounting the concept of the potential that is never given the chance to show it’s self you are in fact representing an idea Hitler himself believed.
When I say “what if” I’m asking you to consider what all the phrase “obtain an abortion” means. It means purposely deciding there isn’t going to ever be an answer to the “what ifs”. Ever. Have you ever held a newborn baby and seen the massive intelligence in their eyes? It is a beautiful feeling and one the most wonderful parts of this life.
